Your Good Qualities (Part 1)
Self-confident people recognize their skills. Some people avoid this, thinking they’ll become egotists, but you don’t have to brag in order to pat yourself on the back. Even the most humble person takes time to appreciate what he has to offer the rest of the world.
In Sight, In Mind
“Out of sight, Out of mind” is a powerful concept, and thankfully for you, the reverse is true. In life, you can’t see from the outside so are the results of our actions are the only things we have to go by. Putting proof in front of your eyes is a simple reinforcement that gets you used to feeling good about yourself.
Look in the mirror. What’s the first good thing you notice about your face? Say to yourself, “I really Like My _____.” You don’t have to write a poem about it, or publish a notice in the paper. No one else has to agree. This isn’t about what other people feel is important, remember? Just you.
Likewise, when you do something good during the day, be sure to write it down somewhere. Even if it is on an old envelope or post-it note, seeing it in print will reinforce it in your mind.
Redo your resume. Writing a resume can be a gut-wrenching experience for those with low self-confidence. They look at their paper and see so much white space. In order to land a better paying or more prestigious job, you’re going to have to examine your work history and note your major accomplishments. Laying them out in front of you makes for a powerful ego boost.
Talk to Your Friends
It’s embarrassing to think of telling your friends you’re working on your self-confidence. Depending on who they are, they might even tease you about it. That’s okay. You don’t need to come out and say it that way to get their opinion of you. All you need to do is talk through your favorite memories with them, and they’ll remind you of a hundred things you’ve already forgotten.