Self-Confidence: The Basics (Part 1)
Self-confidence, very simply, is having positive, realistic expectations of yourself. Positive AND realistic. You can’t have one without the other without changing your mindset.
Self-doubting: Even though I have my piloting license, I don’t think I’ll ever be able to fly on my own.
Self-deluded: Now that I’ve mastered this video game, I’ll be the best pirate flier in the sky.
Most people are particularly confident in one area, while not so much in another. That’s hard to imagine in these days of actors who sing and write and resurrect UNICEF. You might feel like you have nothing going for yourself, but remember, with money and contacts, most anything is possible.
You’re good at many things, but could always use improvement in areas too.
Are You Self-Confident?
Quick! Before you do anything else, list 10 things you do well.
Once your list is done, read through it with a smile on your face. Say everything out loud. Celebrate them. Embrace the truth. Right now you’re experiencing the very first step:
Self-confident people know they do wonderful things.
Maybe this part was easy for you because you already know you’re great in so many ways. Good for you!
Now that you’ve sung your praises, make another list. This time write down at least five ways in which you could improve.
Note, I didn’t say, “Five things you hate about yourself,” or “Five things you should have done a long time ago.” Nope. Just five simple ways you could work harder, be more responsible (or let your hair down), etc.
Self-confident people love themselves enough to want to improve their actions, and their lives.
An action can be many things. It can be eating healthier meals, or dating more respectful people. It can be taking a second job, or planning a vacation. Everyone has opportunities to take actions that improve their lives. What are yours?