Friendships, and even romances, that start online frequently carry over into the real world. Some feel that you get to know the “real person” by meeting someone online first without being swayed by matters of appearance. A shy man who feels tongue-tied whenever he comes face to face with a pretty woman can be more confident talking to that woman through e-mail. As his confidence builds, he can eventually work up to meeting that woman in person. If that particular relationship doesn’t work out, then he can use this newfound confidence to find his next potential female companion.

Now turning to the internet to build self-confidence isn’t healthy if you simply use it as an excuse to retreat from your normal everyday life. It can be much too easy to hide behind a persona you create online. It won’t do you any good if you’re only able to relate to others when you’re acting as “Sheila, Mistress of the Dark” in a chat room. The idea of hiding behind a persona has one positive aspect, though. You can potentially gain self-confidence online by practicing skills that will carry over into the real world. Try on the role of someone who is confident, and eventually you may find yourself no longer pretending.

It’s important not to take things too far, though. Unfortunately, some people view the internet as a free-for-all, where it doesn’t matter what they do and who they harm in the process. Someone who would never start an argument at work will engage in a bitter flame war on a message board. The temporary confidence that may come from doing something daring will eventually turn into feelings of self-loathing if you engage in activities that go against your morals or beliefs.

While there are possible drawbacks, if you’re feeling uncomfortable in face-to-face social situations, try going online. You have the potential to gain valuable communication skills and a confidence that will follow you into the real world.

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