I’m sure you’ve all heard stories of the way that people can change when they go online. The otherwise good teenager starts to engage in cyber bullying or the otherwise faithful husband gets into some heated chats with fantasy ladies. The changes that a person experiences when they go online don’t have to be negative, though.

Some people simply feel more comfortable when communicating through writing rather than speaking. Sometimes they’re shy or easily embarrassed. Sometimes they just prefer the chance to compose their thoughts before exposing them to the world. In other cases, a speech impediment or some other personal issue gets in the way of clearly community when speaking. In all of these examples, writing e-mails, sending instant messages and posting in forums gives them a chance to be a part of the conversations they may excuse themselves from in person.

Chatting and sending instant messages can be a good way to become more comfortable with friends and acquaintances. You can start with small talk and build up to more substantial conversations when you’ve gained confidence, or you can keep it light and talk about your shared love of heavy metal or Chihuahuas.

Forums and e-mail lists are another way to build self confidence by cultivating groups of friends who share common interests and tastes. You’ll naturally have something to talk about, removing one of the nagging doubts that can cause a lack of self confidence in the real world. You can also build confidence by seeing yourself as an expert in a subject when others come to you for advice.

It’s possible for computer users to discover skills they never knew they had when they journey into the online world. Some people are known for their talent with web design or graphics while others show amazing skill in playing multi-player online games. Making everyone’s favorite forum avatars isn’t necessarily a skill that will be rewarded at school or work, but it can lead to feelings of self-confidence nonetheless. In the case of transferable skills like web design, they may eventually lead to even more positive results like finding a new job that capitalizes on these interests.

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