Facing Your Fears (Part 1)
Fear has a purpose. It helps keep us safe, keeps us from taking too dangerous of risks. For too many people though, the power of fear keeps them from improving their lives. In order to become self-confident you must believe you can try to change and succeed. Facing your fear is essential to living the life you most want to lead.
Being afraid is a pretty intense emotion. The first time we feel it we might not even know why. Strangely enough, it is not always the fear of failure that forces that grabs ahold. Sometimes it is the fear of success that takes the driver’s seat.
To understand how to defeat your fear, you must understand its motivation.
What do you have to lose?
Dylan played drums for a popular indie band for nearly ten years before they got a deal. Instead of being elated, every time he thought about signing the new record he started to sweat. The option to quit the band crossed several times before he pulled himself together.
The worst that could happen in Dylan’s case was winding up on the road, where he’d been before, in a van with guys that he usually liked playing music he loved. There was the threat of their songs being tweaked, winding up in debt, and other things he was already dealing with.
Surprisingly it wasn’t the criticism either. As an experienced musician, he’d heard his share of hisses and boos. When he really thought about it, Dylan was most worried about how he would handle the success of a major musician.
What do I have to Win?
Many times people can easily list the benefits to the situations they’re headed into. It’s what they don’t know that’s so frightening. “What will happen if I leave my husband?” “What will happen once we’re married?” “How will this baby change my life?”
Fear can paralyze your ability to make decisions. when that happens, it’s time to survey your options.