The easiest way to achieve this is through small, manageable goals leading to simple, positive consequences. Decision with little risk of failure will, over time, rebuilds your self-confidence.

How do you decide what direction to start in? Like anyone else. Look at something you want to happen. Would you feel good if the car was cleaner? Take it to the car wash. Do you want to read more? Pick up a paperback. Choose one of the millions of small decisions people make every day … just make sure it’s up to you. Make sure the outcome is something you specifically wanted to happen.

Positive Reinforcement

When you feel worthless, and hopeless to change, positive self-talk can be a huge help. It might feel hokey at first, but sooner than later you’ll start to enjoy your talk sessions with yourself.

Speak the truth. Think back through your life and focus on funny or proud moments in your life. Write them down, and then record them on tape. You don’t have to listen to them again, but set a goal to fill up so many a month. Keep tabs on what you do that makes you smile everyday.

The better your results, the more you’ll want to take some credit. Once you acknowledge your role in forming the life you live today, the stronger you’ll feel when it comes to gaining your life of tomorrow.

Staying realistic

You may always be tempted to put responsibility of your life in someone else’s hands. Make sure your goals depend entirely on yourself. If you’re looking for a new job, set a number of resumes you’ll deliver instead of a time frame of when you’ll be hired. Don’t leave your success up to the employers.

Realistic goals will also be, like other people struggling with self-confidence, small to start. Your first stop on route to a new career may be a self-assessment test. The next may be finding training programs. And so on and so on. These are things you choose to research, follow up, and invest your time in.

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